李光耀的孙辈们公众得知甚少。昨天新加坡眼分享的李绳武为李光耀幼子李显扬的儿子，而总理李显龙则共有4个孩子，其中女儿李修齐和儿子李毅鹏是病逝的前妻黄名扬所生，儿子李鸿毅和李浩毅是现任妻子何晶所生。李显龙子女中排行老三的李鸿毅1987年出生，曾获得公共服务委员会海外优异奖学金，赴美国麻省理工学院攻读经济学，之后在谷歌工作，任产品经理。
今天分享李鸿毅在私人葬礼上为爷爷致悼词。在四段李氏家族致悼词视频中，李鸿毅的视频是网络点击人气最高的，是他爸爸李显龙同期的将近3倍之多。
几年前当我准备上大学的时候，爷爷送给我一台相机。这是他第一次也是唯一一次送我礼物。接下来几年，我便迷上了摄影，在上学的时候拍了数千张照片。毕业后，我把最喜欢的照片编辑成书，送给爷爷，以谢谢他送我这份礼物，同时也想让他知道我好好利用了他当初送给我的礼物。
对我来说，爷爷不仅是祖父，他也是给予我启发的人。自小，我就向他看齐，希望长大能像他一样。这个想法至今没有改变。
每逢星期天，我们都会到爷爷奶奶家和他们共进午餐。吃得很简单，马来卤面、椰浆饭、薄饼。他不是讲究奢华或排场的人。如果以为他会在乎食物有多花俏或衣服是什么牌子，那简直太可笑了。他总是在思考更重要的事。他和我们的父母讨论课题时，我们堂兄弟会在一旁聆听。每次听他们交谈之后，总会觉得自己很愚蠢，因为他让我意识到，我在意的课题多么地狭隘，世界还有那么多需要解决的大问题。他让我想做得更多。
他并不是个特别风度翩翩的人。但当他和你交谈时，你会觉得必须聆听，因为你知道他很坦诚地跟你沟通。他不会哄骗你，或故意吹捧你，他永远都是坦率和诚恳。你和他交谈后，会明白他的演讲都不是冠冕堂皇但缺乏实质内容的。它们都是针对他最关注的课题所提出的看法。他不会重复空洞的口号或狭隘的意识形态；他反映的都是经过彻底研究和透彻思考后的立场。我曾有幸陪爷爷到美国华盛顿去，他当时到那里领奖。当他发言时，全场都听得非常入神，这让我感到无比自豪。他的魅力来自本身的实力，而不是临场的表演天分。
爷爷明白自己知识的局限，他会严格审视自己想法中的漏洞以及可能隐藏的风险，而这点他比任何人都了解，特别是当这些想法和新加坡有关。他拒绝让盲目的爱国主义将这个国家搞垮。他深切地关心这个国家的前途，若有什么可能对国家造成威胁，他会竭力了解。但他也以新加坡为豪，认为我们能做得更好。
爷爷让我意识到，我们能为世界做出贡献，而且能堂堂正正地这么做。你不需要撒谎、欺骗或盗窃；你不需要谄媚、吹捧或哄骗。你不需要在意琐碎的事或参与愚蠢的游戏。你的人生可以有一番作为，而最好的方式就是有正确的原则和品行。
人们都景仰爷爷的睿智，他们敬佩他带领和团结国家的能力，他们也敬佩他取得的辉煌成就，这些都是事实。不过，对我来说，他伟大的地方是他选择做这样的人。他是一个品格高尚，思路清晰，信念坚定的人。除了谨记他为我们留下的丰富遗产，更应该铭记他如何引导我们成为更优秀的人。
爷爷多年前把相机送给我的时候，还写了一张纸条。内容很简单，没有花俏的文字和煽情的字眼，只是希望我能好好利用这部相机。我也希望自己做到了这点。
Some years ago when I was preparing togo to university, Yeye gave me a camera. This was the first and only time heever gave me a present. Over the next few years I got deeply into photographyand took thousands of photos of my time in college. After I graduated I got abook printed with my favourite ones. I presented it to him as a thank you forhis gift and hopefully to show him I had done something good with it.
Yeye was more than a grandfather to me.He was an inspiration. As a child, I looked up to him and wanted to grow up tobe the kind of man he was. And even now, I still do.
We would have lunch with Yeye and Nainaievery Sunday at their house. We always ate simple things: mee rebus, nasilemak, popiah. He was never one concerned with luxury or lavishness. The ideathat he would care about how fancy his food was or what brand his clothes werewas ridiculous. His mind was always on more important things. He would havediscussions with our parents while my cousins and I would sit by the side andlisten. I would always feel a bit silly after listening. He made me realize howpetty all my little concerns were and how there were so many bigger problems inthe world. He made me want to do something more with my life.
He was not an especially charming man. Yetwhen he spoke you felt compelled to listen. Because when he spoke you knew hewas being straight with you. He was not trying to cajole or flatter. He wouldbe completely frank and honest. After speaking to him in person you knew thathis speeches were not puffed up fluff. They were truly his opinions on thematters he cared most about. He would never echo empty slogans or narrow-mindedideologies; it was always thoroughly researched and well-consideredperspectives. I had the privilege once of accompanying Yeye to a ceremony inWashington where he was receiving an award. Hearing him speak and watching theentire room listen made me feel so proud. His charisma came not fromshowmanship but from pure substance.
Yeye understood the limits of hisknowledge. He made it a point to try and understand the flaws and risks of hisown perspectives better than anyone else. This was especially true when it cameto Singapore. He refused to let blind nationalism run this country into theground. He cared deeply about this country and made sure that he was aware ofany weaknesses that could cause us harm. And yet he was very proud of Singaporeand confident that we could be better.
Yeye showed me that you could make adifference in this world. Not just that you could make a difference, but thatyou could do it with your head held high. You didn’t have to lie, cheat, orsteal. You didn’t have to charm, flatter, or cajole. You didn’t have to careabout frivolous things or play silly games. You could do something good with yourlife, and the best way to do so was to have good principles and conductyourself honourably.
People admired Yeye for his brilliantmind. They admired him for his ability to lead and rally us together. Theyadmired him for all of his staggering accomplishments. These are all true. Butto me, what made him a great man was the person he chose to be. A man ofcharacter, clarity, and conviction. We should remember him less as a man whogave us great gifts, and more as a man who showed us the kind of people we couldbe.
When Yeye gave me that camera years ago,he wrote me a note. It was a simple note without any flowery language or cheapsentiment. He simply told me that he hoped I made good use of it. I hope I have.
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